I’m Not Prejudiced – Or Am I??

Prejudice defined in dictionary.com

  • an unfavorable opinion or feeling formed beforehand or without knowledge, thought or reason.
  • Any preconceived opinion or feeling, either favorable or unfavorable

I am sure many readers,  (including me) think the word is talking about other people.  I embrace all races, religions, sexual lifestyles and the economically disadvantaged. I am not prejudiced.

But really, think about it!  Think about people you meet, well… not really meet, at a dinner party, don’t you make snap judgments from across the room??

Walking through the mall, don’t you think negative or positive things about the people you pass, judgments about their lifestyle, based solely on a two second view of them in transit?

True confession time, I make am prejudiced.  I do hold (undoubtedly unfounded) stereotypes to be fact. I am not proud of them, but I think you have to face it, to combat it !

Ageism – I often make generalizations about the current young generation.  I also make generalizations about their parents and parenting styles (both ridiculous since those groups include my children and my parenting style)

Size – I don’t have a reaction to the regular size 12 or 14 females or the guy who is an XL, but I do make snap judgments about obese people. Not fair, I don’t know their story or genetics.

Money – But not how you think, I make judgments about people with great wealth.  Different thoughts – misuse, didn’t deserve it , blah blah blah, all stemming from jealousy, no doubt.

Education – I think people with higher education are superior, not sure, I suppose that was drilled in my head my whole life from every direction. Truth is, some very educated people are asses and some very uneducated people are incredibly wise and kind.

 

So there it is, my list.  I am sure I have forgotten some, but the point is admission is half the battle.

There is no denying it, we life in a world that judges.  Although we can’t stamp out prejudice, we can be accountable for our own actions and reactions. The next time I make a generalization or an uninformed snap judgement, I will stop myself and reconsider.  No group is “all”. People are individuals behind their exterior.

Daily Prompt: Letter to My Future Grandkids

Daily Post: Back to the Future A service has been invented through which you can send messages to people in the future. To whom would you send something, and what would you write?
Advice

Dear my grandkids and great grand kids

I am not that old yet, and certainly not that wise, but I do have some tidbits of advice to pass along.

Technology will change; the way things are done, and jobs you hold, but one thing will not change, relationships. Cherish relationships and be good to your friends and family.

Pick a good mate. Pick a partner that you will laugh and have fun with. With any luck you will spend many years with your partner, so be with someone you truly like and, with whom you have common interests.

Be a duck, but not a doormat. Let things roll off your back, but don’t let people walk all over you. It can be tricky to balance, but keep trying.

Go for it! Be brave enough to go for what you want. Obstacles are meant to jump over, not to derail you.

Believe in yourself, you are the driver of your life, you come from good genes (trust me!) and you CAN do it.

The world is a big place. Do yourself a favour and explore the earth and its wonderful people, landscapes and cultures.

Finally, practice altruism. Be kind to people, expecting nothing in return. But in reality you will get so much back, (I am not sure why), it just works that way.

With Lots of Love,
Your Grandma/Great Grandma